Heal Your Relationships (Post 6)

ARE COMPLEX RELATIONSHIPS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE?

I earlier had only one context for relationships – that relationships are meant to be a source of delight. Keep Reading

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Heal Your Relationships (Post 5)

IS THE PAIN FROM RELATIONSHIPS DISPROPORTIONATELY HIGHER THAN PLEASURE?

The mathematics of relationships looks somewhat warped. And this is about all relationships not just love relationships.

The pleasure that one reaps in a relationship – the proportion of fun and delight – is relatively smaller and the pain it induces by the side – the proportion of drag (at best) and misery (at worst) – is far larger. Keep Reading

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Heal Your Relationships (Post 4)

ARE RELATIONSHIPS ENTANGLEMENTS OR ENCHANTMENTS?

To a Buddha, a relationship is perhaps a misery-inducing entanglement. And to a Krishna, it is a pleasurable enchantment. To me, both are just perspectives, useful ones at that.

What matters more is our personal truth around this deeply karmic subject, our as-lived experience, the distilled essence of the way life has treated us in this domain. Keep Reading

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Heal Your Relationships (Post 3)

Anger can be healthy.

It helps one draw boundaries and define deal-breakers in relationships. Whether we like it or not, each of us has quite a few push-buttons. Our anger reminds others to honour our unique wiring with its myriad push-buttons. It works like the scare-crow which forestalls invasions into its territory. Keep Reading

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Heal Your Relationships (Post 2)

The other day I made a post on FB about the ‘Call to Love’ that’s innate to each of us. That the universe demands completion. And that we are invited – time and again – to work upon a painful relationship until we consummate it into a loving relationship. Keep Reading

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