ARE COMPLEX RELATIONSHIPS A BLESSING IN DISGUISE?
IS THE PAIN FROM RELATIONSHIPS DISPROPORTIONATELY HIGHER THAN PLEASURE?
The mathematics of relationships looks somewhat warped. And this is about all relationships not just love relationships.
The pleasure that one reaps in a relationship – the proportion of fun and delight – is relatively smaller and the pain it induces by the side – the proportion of drag (at best) and misery (at worst) – is far larger.
ARE RELATIONSHIPS ENTANGLEMENTS OR ENCHANTMENTS?
To a Buddha, a relationship is perhaps a misery-inducing entanglement. And to a Krishna, it is a pleasurable enchantment. To me, both are just perspectives, useful ones at that.
Anger can be healthy.
It helps one draw boundaries and define deal-breakers in relationships. Whether we like it or not, each of us has quite a few push-buttons. Our anger reminds others to honour our unique wiring with its myriad push-buttons. It works like the scare-crow which forestalls invasions into its territory.