As we had a packed house in the seminar this Saturday.
A group of friends or colleagues often has people of all personality types. Some are assertive, some are submissive, these being the two broad categories.
When such a group comes together to decide upon something, the dynamics are interesting. Sometimes the naturally assertive people dilute their stand to make room for the interests of others and the naturally non-assertive people speak up their minds to show participation or to prove their presence. And then they come to some consensus which is more of a middle ground. This is an unnatural way to form consensus because it results in inner discontent for all. There is a possibility that the assertive finds the decision less than optimal and the submissive feels guilty that he got the assertive to change his heart or that he himself had to exercise assertion, which is not in line with his authentic self.